Greg Tufaro is a second-generation astrologer and segment producer for "Good Morning America."
When it comes to love and relationships, I often get the question, “Are we a good match?” Or, even better… “Is he or she THE ONE?”
The reality is, to answer those questions, it’s probably best to look inward and follow the truth of whatever your heart, your head and your gut are telling you.
However, that being said, consider astrology a tool to use in your couples’ toolbox; a mirror through which you can reflect on the potential dynamics of your relationship.
Instead of asking yourself the questions above, I challenge you to be honest with yourself in answering just this one:
What are you seeking from a relationship?
Some people like a challenge. Some people like ease. Some like spontaneity while others prefer stability. Some people like to be adored while others like to do the adoring. Which are you?
For a truly in-depth understanding of a particular relationship, an astrologer would typically request the birthday, minute, year and location of the two people involved, and then would put together birth charts that plot all of the planetary alignments for each partner in the relationship and examine how they relate to one another.
Because that’s impossible for me to do in this one column here today, ahead, I’ve written up an astrological shorthand that’s solely based on sun sign astrology (like the broad horoscopes you could have grown up seeing in a magazine or newspaper) to give you the general gist of how a particular relationship is likely to flow.
There are six primary relationship dynamics based on the geometry between different signs in the zodiac wheel. Find your own and see if it resonates!
The Same Sign
People who share the same sign in a relationship are very similar to those whose relationship is six signs apart. This is one of those instant-connection sorts of relationships. You feel this person is a kindred spirit. You’re likely to see many similar qualities in your partner that you find in yourself: those you admire and those you do not. It can be like looking a mirror, but occasionally seeing a reflection of your own faults through your partner’s eyes.
For the most part, it should be an easy flow depending upon how self-aware you are. If, however, you’re less in touch with yourself and your own flaws, seeing them mirrored back to you can be alarming, but from which you can potentially experience the biggest growth.
One Sign Apart
When you are born a sign apart, your relationship is one of the teacher and the student. The student will feel as if they have much to learn from the teacher and the teacher will have an understanding/sympathy for their student that they can’t quite explain. You approach life differently and therein lies the attraction. You have the ability to complement each other when it comes to your strengths. Balance and success in this relationship come from allowing the one who wants to take the lead to lead, and the one who wants to follow to do just that.
Two Signs Apart
Friendship should come easily between you two, even though at times, the differences between you can result in a “fight, break-up, make-up” sort of relationship. Luckily that dynamic tends to happen quickly and your relationship moves on to the next conversation. Anything unresolved between you, however, will have a tendency to come back and repeat itself over and over again… even years later! If you can maintain a core of friendship between the two of you, this relationship has the potential to last.
Three Signs Apart
More often than not, this relationship is one where both partners will sense an underlying tension when it comes to understanding one another. You approach life from an entirely different perspective and may feel as if your way of doing something is right while the other person’s is wrong. There’s a sense of being a judge and jury of one another. One of you may think one way about things, while the other person feels differently. And then that pattern flips. Tension can be a good thing if it leads you to being more self-aware and then, in turn, to understanding someone who is different than you are. Is that what you’re looking for? No one said a relationship had to be easy.
Four Signs Apart
This is one of those relationships that naturally flows more effortlessly because of an underlying empathy that exists between you two. You feel similarly. You think similarly. You approach life in basically the same way. This match is one that typically can have success more than any of the other combinations that exist. Barring any unforeseen circumstances, this is a natural pair that should work from the get-go. You have the power within this relationship to get rid of any misunderstandings that may come between you.
Five Signs Apart
Typically, there will be some element of miscommunication or inability to communicate completely effectively that can undermine this relationship. Yet, it is that very disconnect that draws you two together in such an alluring manner. If love is at the heart of this relationship, then sex can potentially bring you two together when you feel apart. There is a sense of serving one another underlying this relationship. Occasionally, the act of serving the other will bring resentment, but you must decide if you wish to figure your way around that. Loyalty is the most important thing to keep this relationship strong and lasting. If that is missing, then it will tend to fall apart.
Six Signs Apart
Those of the opposite sex born under this combination will have an intense magnetism between the two of you. Those of the same sex, will have an underlying envy of what the other person has that you know you lack. The inner urge to copy one another will be hard to resist, so we often find ourselves imitating those of our opposite sign. That in and of itself can stir up difficulty in this relationship as it causes us to look at ourselves truly for who we are. Ultimately, however, THAT can be the greatest gift in this relationship. Being more aware of who you are allows you to be more free to be yourself without any limitations.