Advice Guru Liz Pryor: Ending a Dead-End Relationship
Aug. 9, 2011 -- You're dating someone, you're having doubts, the la la land feeling has worn off and you feel stuck in a relationship.
The relationship is familiar and easy, and you don't like change. You feel torn and confused, but the signs are all there.
The person is lazy, doesn't have a job, is critical, has a weird family, is judgmental, racist, selfish, vapid or perhaps just annoying.
Here's the truth. Getting out of a long-term or even in intense, short-term relationship is never fun.
A breakup like that seldom goes smoothly and often shakes our world in a way we'd rather not have it shaken.
That said, whether we like it or not, knowing that the love has faded and hesitating to address it only avoids the inevitable.
The waiting and pondering we do when a relationship has stalled is simply stall time.
And stall time is stressful, wasteful and complicating.
If we're aware of the stall time but decide we need it, we can accept it and pick a date for ending the relationship.
If we're not aware, and we need a slap of reality, take this opportunity to consider the importance of moving on in your life.
Bite the bullet. Get out of your head, and end the relationship, so that you can begin to move forward and find what it is you need to feel complete and fill your heart.
'There Is Nothing to Fear but Fear Itself'
How many times can we hear an old pearl of wisdom? And how many times can we not really listen?
We can all use a reminder that when we read or hear the old, wise and familiar pearls, we should remember that they have become ingrained in our culture for a reason.
They are here not just to hear and pass them over. These words of wisdom are here to help, guide, direct, inspire and provoke.
So, pay attention. These are the base guides for good living.
