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\"I was living the life of a straight man for most of my life,\" he said. \"My generation, it just was never part of the narrative.\"

Rohrer, an ex-Cowboys player, married 36-year-old Ross, the \"Real Housewives of Beverly Hills\" aesthetician, over the weekend in front of more than 100 family and friends.

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PHOTO: Jeff Rohrer, left, a former NFL player, and Joshua Ross kiss during their wedding ceremony in Los Angeles, Nov. 18, 2018.
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Ross said he wanted to announce the wedding months ago, but \"Jeff just wasn't ready for that ... so literally we didn't tell anyone about the wedding until about six weeks before.\"

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“To be fully seen by somebody, then, and be loved anyhow–this is a human offering that can border on miraculous.” – Elizabeth Gilbert

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Rohrer came out to the world last week.

\"I feared the worst with my kids, I feared the worst with my family, I feared the worst with my friends, I feared the worst with my teammates,\" he said. \"I feared the worst with past teammates and I would say 99.4 percent I was wrong.\"

Ross and Rohrer said they've heard from other athletes grappling with the same issues.

\"There was a young kid playing, I don't think it was professional baseball I think it was college baseball, and he basically sent along a message saying thank you so much and I need advice,\" Ross said.

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