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If the answer is no, then it should be donated or given to a friend. Being able to determine what items spark joy is a skill that has to be developed, Kondo told \"GMA\" earlier this month.

But for Henry, that skill was difficult for her to pick up, she said.

\"The trend toward a minimalist lifestyle is privileged,\" Henry wrote in the article. \"My house is a hodgepodge of things we've gradually collected as we could afford them, rather than a neatly curated design we coordinated and purchased at one time.\"

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PHOTO: Crystal Henry, 34, of San Antonio, Texas, is photographed with her children, Sunny, 9 and Violet, 6.
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\"Articles about minimalism on Pinterest will tell you to throw things away with holes, or get rid of chipped dishes,\" she continued. \"They encourage people to buy quality over quantity, which is great advice. But when you can't afford quality, and it was a stretch to afford those chipped dishes in the first place, it just isn't that easy.\"

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PHOTO: Crystal Henry, 34, of San Antonio, Texas, is photographed with her husband, Cary Henry.
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Henry said she received backlash on social media from people who likely misconstrued what she meant by saying Kondo's methods are for those who are \"privileged.\" However, for Henry, the word privileged does not translate to \"wealthy,\" she explained.

\"You don't have to have money in order to be organized,\" Henry said. \"It's even what Marie Kondo addresses. It's about the emotional attachment to things. [She] teaches you to see the value of things and decide what actually brings value to your life.\"

\"But when it's hard to even afford the simplest things and you remember every purchase you made,\" she added, \"I know how much harder it is because everything has so much more value... at least for me.\"

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PHOTO: Crystal Henry, 34, wrote a recent column titled, "For Messy Moms, Marie Kondo's Ideas Are Complicated."
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Growing up, Henry said her family struggled to make ends meet. Both her parents worked, but she said she has memories of scraping together spare change to purchase a meal.

Henry said she watched Kondo's show and it inspired her to donate clothing that she no longer wears. The de-cluttering wasn't easy, though, as it reminded her of the things she didn't have growing up. In turn, it was difficult for her to part ways with certain items.

\"I don't think you have to be privileged to benefit from Marie Kondo, it's just easier,\" Henry said. \"The KonMari method was an easier transition because I'm in the place that I'm in now. Not that it couldn't help me when we didn't have money, I just noticed it was much easier [now] to purge. Marie has you thank your items [for helping you in past moments], and she has you thank your home. I felt privileged to be able to do this now.\"

\"To give something that I treasured for so long, even if it doesn't have monetary value to the level I'm valuing it, I also feel very privleged to be able to pass that along to someone who will,\" Henry said.

Marie Kondo released the following tips for people like Henry who are experiencing difficulty letting go of their belongings.

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\"Instead of concentrating on what you want to let go of, focus on what you want to keep,\" Kondo told \"GMA\" in an email. \"Which items speak to your heart and contribute to the life you want to live from this day forward?\"

\"To truly cherish these items, discard those that have outlived their purpose,\" she added. \"To get rid of what you no longer need is neither wasteful nor shameful. Let it go with gratitude. Be proud of who you are in this moment — and give these discarded items a chance to spark joy for someone else.\"

In the end, Henry said Kondo and her \"beautiful soul\" have helped her appreciate all that she has now.

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