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\"They then can answer what their needs are. Maybe they need a break, but giving that option can help them communicate their needs effectively, so that we can break down that barrier,\" she said.

If you don't want your kids to yell, don't yell, she noted.

\"They're picking up everything you do and trying to replicate it,\" she explained. \"The more calm we can be in those moments, we can pull down their emotional thermometer.\"

But avoiding tantrums isn't always the goal, Samar said. It's important to introduce rules at a toddler's level in order to keep things safe, build empathy and communication.

\"Calmly explain why these demands are being placed on them where it's developmentally appropriate...so it's not overwhelming,\" she said.

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