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In her new book, \"But Like Maybe Don't,\" Margulis shares candid dating stories and what she's learned from them over the years, along with more than 70 new cartoons about navigating the messy world of dating in the digital age. Because \"while you may think you'd do anything for love . . . maybe you shouldn't,\" the book teases.

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Margulis shares her top dating don'ts with \"Good Morning America\" in her own words and illustrations below.

1. Be with someone who wakes up every day excited to be with you, and treats you like the unicorn you are! Realize your own worth, and what you deserve.

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2.Don't chase them. If they want to see you, they will! It's the harsh truth. I spent too many nights bar hopping, searching for my crush of the moment, instead of having fun with my friends.

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3.Don't wait up. There's nothing worse than desperation. I used to sleep with an outfit on under my sheets. Get your own plans! Don't hope to be included late night in theirs!

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4.Don't try to change someone. Forget the checklist in your head. There's no perfect person out there.

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5.Don't play wedding bells too early. (This was a question I actually asked.) Sometimes we get ahead of ourselves to make sure people are aligned with some predetermined romantic timeline. Leave marriage plans out of the first date!

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