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\"They were these mega rock stars who, frankly, for the first couple of years, overshadowed William and Kate,\" said Lacey who explained that palace aides had decided that the Duke and Duchess of Sussex had to somehow \"be edged out.\"

One way this message came across was at the queen's Christmas address, said Lacey.

\"The previous year, there'd been a lovely photograph of Meghan and Harry. This year, no photograph,\" said Lacey. \"The queen doesn't mention their name. And although she says she's welcomed this year her eighth great grandchild, she doesn't mention the name of Archie. The message here is very clear. These people are in the second rank. And the people who matter are, look, myself, the queen, Charles, William, and little Prince George.\"

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The other message came shortly after, with the commissioning of a series of official portraits of Queen Elizabeth with Prince Charles, Prince William and Prince George.

\"A picture is issued of the four monarchs of the present and the future. And I think the underlying message of that is, 'Just remember your place, Harry and Meghan. These are the people that really matter in the royal family. And you are the backup. And you're trying to play too prominent a role,'\" said Lacey.

The royal historian pointed out that when it came time to hold a meeting with the rest of his family about his and Meghan's future within the royal family, Harry was already feeling embattled.

\"William and Charles, in particular -- they were offhand -- 'Put it down in writing, old chap' -- You know?\" said Lacey. \"I don't think they took them seriously. And they kept saying, 'Give us something in writing.'\"Lacey explained that Harry was reluctant to do so, as he didn't trust palace aides not to leak his thoughts to the press -- which then happened when The Sun newspaper published an outline of the couple's plans to leave the U.K. and possibly settle in Canada.

This prompted Harry and Meghan to launch the Sussex Royal website, which Lacey says was created out of frustration. The couple gave very little warning to the family before publicly publishing their plans.

“Harry lost his cool,” said Lacey. “William in particular loses his cool.”

By now, according to Lacey, the battle lines between the brothers had been firmly drawn. He explains that Queen Elizabeth proposed a family lunch before the royal family and their aides held calls a meeting to discuss Harry and Meghan’s future -- the so-called Sandringham Summit.

\"And William said, 'No.' This was extraordinary. Harry said, 'Yes.' Charles said, 'Yes.' William actually said, 'No.' Friends apparently said that he felt he couldn't keep his temper, or he didn't want to sit with Harry. He said, 'I'll sit down for negotiations. I'm not going to sit at the same table,'\" Lacey said.

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\"And that, I think, is the real moment when you can say the breach became definitive. From then, it was really downhill with negotiations going on, and with a very punitive palace attitude towards Harry. The royal family feeling was that, 'Harry's broken the rules. He should've kept these things confidential till we'd all discussed them.' Harry's view was, 'I did my best, for goodness sake. And you're the people who actually let it slip out. And, so, if that's going to be your way of behaving, I'm going do the same,'\" Lacey continued.

Lacey argues in the book that not only was the Sussexes' departure from royal life badly handled, but so was Meghan's introduction.

\"They should've recognized that they had a person in her own right, a celebrity in her own right. They should've sat down with her and said, 'Well, now, what would you like to achieve here? What are the values you particularly want to push?'\" he told \"GMA.\"

But Lacey said the palace is \"still pretty conventional in its thinking.\"

\"It's still male-dominated,\" said Lacey. \"A young, independent woman coming in with her own ideas, they're not used to that.\"

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Meghan's departure from the royal ranks, Lacey said, could well have a long-lasting effect on the monarchy. \"This mixed-race recruit and her mixed-race son are out of the family. It was such a missed opportunity. It's not surprising that a country like Barbados recently said, 'Well, we'll sign off. We don't need a white head of state anymore,'\" Lacey said.

\"We are proud that our monarchy heads a mixed-race Commonwealth. To have first welcomed in, and then in some way lost control of, lost fellowship with your star mixed race recruit, that's a big mistake,\" Lacey said.

So, will we see a rapprochement between the princes any time soon?

\"I think we're looking at the future to, sadly, to some sort of bipolar monarchy, unless William -- and I think the onus does lie on William -- to reach out and try and affect some either genuine reconciliation or genuine acknowledgment that their paths must part,\" Lacey said.

The two brothers were due to have met at the queen's official birthday in June, but the pandemic did not allow it. However, Lacey said there is major meeting for the brothers set to next year.

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\"We've got a very big date coming up next year, the 1st of July, the 60th anniversary of Diana's birth,\" Lacey said. \"And both boys have already committed to be in London at the same time, presumably with their wives, for the unveiling of a statue to Diana.\"

All eyes will be on this pair of princes, Lacey said.

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PHOTO: Diana, Princess of Wales walks with sons Prince Harry and Prince William at the Eton College, Berkshire, England, Sept. 6, 1995. It was Prince William's first day at the school.
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\"I'm sure the whole world will be looking at these two boys who are there together, and will want to know, 'Well, is this genuine? Are they putting on an act?'\" Lacey said. \"As a sentimental Brit, and, like I think most Brits, we'd all love the brothers to come back and embrace each other.\"

On the last page of the book, Lacey writes, \"What would happen if Diana came back to life, and had some advice to give these boys?\" In his mind, he writes, she would say, \"Time for the social distancing to end, boys... talk to each other.\"

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