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2. Grow from there

Building on the success of \"Daddy Power,\" Bennett Bey began to look for more ways to engage with his kids. He didn't have to look far: Bennett Bey said he started thinking about his own childhood. He said thinks of his boys as a \"mini version of me\" and so, thought back to his own childhood to recall what motivated him.

One of his sons, he said, much like himself, liked to make everything a competition. So whether it was sight words or marital arts, Bennett Bey put a competitive spin on everything they did -- and it worked to bond them closer and push his son to reach his potential.

3. Find the time and make plans

Bennett Bey said actually implementing the plans he had was harder than he thought. Once he was no longer working in a traditional job, he found himself with more time. \"I had to set aside the time and plan activities out,\" he told \"GMA.\" It went from an hour to \"Daddy Saturdays/ And now, he said, \"whatever I'm doing, they're right there doing it with me.\"

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Fatherhood Not for the weak nor the soft or undisciplined Not for those who cannot find strength within This is a mission like no other as it is written That a father in the human family has been positioned At the bottom as foundation for the building of nations That means fathers must strive in education Have Physical characteristics of strength for preservation Create reservations of Currency for Generations And make preparations for many before expiration this a different mindset we put the games away to prepare for another gauntlet to raise a child in that way that they should go takes a will that doesn’t sway never exhausted Gotta use internal resources to battle external forces that are trying to push your child out of orbit #fatherhood #fathers #fatherandson #blackfathers #fatherhoodpoem

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4. Take care of yourself

The dad of three said self-care is hugely important to staying strongly bonded to your kids. He recalled the weight he put on once he left the military and the back issue that were both keeping him from keeping up with his kids. \"You have to think of your body like a car. If you don't put gas in it, if you don't do the maintenance, it's going to fall apart.\"

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@theycallmepapabennett Are Fathers staying in their lane...? Back in the day, Men worked, and women took care of the home and children and that was OUR LANE. But In todays society, the likelihood of fathers becoming stay at home dads is more common, especially post pandemic. You know what that means? Yup, we have an UPDATED lane and many dads are having to learn how to adjust to this new role. But listen, it’s not changing, so we might as well get comfortable 🤷🏽‍♂️ One of the most important things we need to understand about being a stay home parent, is how important it is to ENGAGE our children and not just be a warm body fulfilling their necessities. DID YOU KNOW that children whose fathers engage in regular play with them, are predicted to have higher IQ scores? And don’t make excuses guys, because engagement can be as simple as talking to your kids or taking an hour out of the day to just spend time doing an activity of their choice. The point is to ENGAGE and to do it as often and consistently as possible. Our kids need it just as much as we do (FuncFact: Having fun with your kid actually decreases stress 🤔 go figure) Remember your lane is bigger, but it’s also better, stay in it so you and your children can reap the benefits. #fatherhood #menwithlocs #blackfatherhood #blackfathersmatter #dad #blackdads #involvedfathers

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The best part of Bennett Bey's change, he said, is the changes he sees in his family. \"Just like in the Marines, I think of the family as our unit. And when I see [the kids] succeed, when I see a light bulb go off, I'm so proud. Watching your children grow is outstanding.\"

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