JC Ellis from Germantown, Tenn., is a finalist in the Dear GMA Advice Guru Contest. Read her response to a viewer-submitted question below!
Question from Dee in Baltimore, Maryland:For all of the families that have lost their jobs, lost their homes, probably unemployment checks, and probably more, how can we make it a Happy Holiday for them? This is a time of sharing and love so what are your suggestions to make this a better holiday and to look to a better new year?
JC's Answer: Yours is a timely question because, for many people, this time of year is not filled with joy and merriment, especially now with economic hardships, high unemployment and America's involvement in two active wars. The holidays are also especially difficult for anyone grieving a death. Most of us know at least one person for whom the holidays are less than merry.
There are many things that caring people can do to help spread holiday cheer to someone in need. Most churches have "Angel Tree" gift programs where you can sponsor a family in need or buy gifts for their children. You can also send a care package to the troops.
If the need is with someone that you know personally, stop by unannounced with coffee or tea and ask them how they're doing. Sometimes, people just need to know that someone cares about their situation. Listening and validating their concern with empathy without trying to "fix" their issue for them is a free gift that is not given enough. Just remember to make this chat about their issues and not your issues. If they ask for your opinion, offer it. If not, just listen.
If they share a need that you can meet for them, step in and do it. Don't wait for them to ask for your help. They won't. People in need are often very proud, especially someone who has never before been a person in need. During your chat, if you learn that their utility bill is in Final Notice status, pay it for them. If you can't pay the full amount, pay enough to give them another month of breathing room. If you aren't able to offer this level of financial assistance, contact your church. Most churches have benevolent funds earmarked for people in need and welcome the opportunity to help a member's friend. Invite the person to attend church with you, this might lift their spirits.
In the spirit of pay it forward, gift your friend with a basket of home baked goods and a gift card for a movie. Include free childcare services with this night of escapism. If the children are candidates for a visit from "Super Nanny," offer to watch the kids at their home, not yours. Have your family become the family's secret Santa, and purchase at least one gift for each child in the family.
If the friend is facing an imminent foreclosure, show up with boxes to help them pack and help research other housing options. Invite the family to your home for dinner and board games. If they don't bring up their situation, don't ask about it. Sometimes people don't want to talk about their drama, they live it daily, and if there is positive news to report, they'll share it. Most importantly, continue to be the person's friend and encourage them that just like each new day, a new year brings with it the hope of better days.