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She also detailed her struggles with low self-esteem and how that affected her reaction to hearing she was cast as the Bachelorette.

\"I grew up having no self confidence because of a lot of things that have happened in my life, not believing in myself and not feeling worthy of a lot of stuff,\" she shared. \"That is something that is kind of at my core, that when things are hard or challenging, it kind of reverts to that unknowingly.\"

When asked to share how she's grown since leaving Galavis’ season, Crawley explained what's changed.

\"Coming off of Juan Pablo's season...I was weak. I didn't know who I was,\" she shared. \"I just wasn't self-aware I guess, and now, coming from there and doing all the work over these last -- all in my 30s -- I'm an empowered woman now and a strong woman.\"

\"More than anything I would say I'm a courageous woman now,\" she added. \"And even when I am weak, I still have the courage within myself to do hard things, and that is something that I'm proud of now.\"

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She said she wants her potential match to know about her past experiences and how she was shaped by them.

\"I want the man of my dreams to see the worst of me, to know the worst of me,\" she said. \"Not to have maybe compassion or anything like that, but to maybe see it's not always easy and confident and strong and empowered.\"

\"There's a lot that I went through that I want them to know the hard, ugly, embarrassing struggles of my life to appreciate the woman that I am today,\" she added. \"And I want a man to love me for that -- and not just for the easy makeup and hair ... anybody can love you for the easy fun times and the smiles and the laughs.\"

\"It's been something that I've hidden for so many years,\" she added on her past struggles. \"These are the things that have made the woman that I am today.\"

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