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Dad writes 270 lunchbox notes to daughter for each day he’s deployed

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Army dad wrote 270 lunchbox notes for his daughter before deploying to Afghanistan
Kristen Gray
ByNicole Pelletiere
November 17, 2020, 9:33 AM

An Army dad who was deployed to Afghanistan made sure his daughter knew she was always on his mind by writing daily notes for each day that he expected to be gone.

Staff Sgt. Philip Gray wrote 270 messages to 7-year-old Rosie just before leaving Fort Drum, New York, on Oct. 7, 2019. Mom Kristen Gray said she gave her husband the idea.

"He wrote anything from, 'You are super girl' to 'Smiling makes everyone else smile,'" Kristen Gray told "Good Morning America." "He was very big on feel-good words for her and girl power. He made sure to tell her how smart she was, and run fast in P.E. and things that would really make her happy."

PHOTO: Staff Sergeant Philip Gray poses with his daughter, Rosie, 7, after returning home from Afghanistan. Gray wrote messages to Rosie just before leaving Fort Drum, New York on Oct. 7, 2019. The notes represented each day he expected to be deployed.
Staff Sergeant Philip Gray poses with his daughter, Rosie, 7, after returning home from Afghanistan. Gray wrote 270 messages to Rosie just before leaving Fort Drum, New York on Oct. 7, 2019. The notes represented each day he expected to be deployed.
Kristen Gray

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Each morning, Kristen would slip one of Philip's notes into Rosie's lunchbox. Some of them included doodles like snowmen or pumpkins to represent holidays missed.

Staff Sergeant Philip Gray poses with his wife Kristen and daughter Rosie, 7, at Fort Drum, New York, on Aug. 8, 2020.
Kristen Gray

Philip ended up returning home Aug. 8, 2020 -- three days before Rosie's birthday.

"Now that I'm home ... she asks me, 'Dad are you going leave me and mom a note?'" Philip told "GMA." "I say 'Yes bug, I will leave you a note.'"

Kristen shared a video of Philip's homecoming as well as the notes on TikTok, which was viewed over 250,000 times.

"It's a very emotional time," Philip said. "I missed all the holidays. Thankfully, this time round was just under a year so I didn't have to miss birthdays as well."

"Stepping out of quarantine and getting to see the girls, that was the greatest thing," he added.

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